Tuesday, 31 January 2012

Guest Post: Is there life after having 2 babies and gaining 100 pounds????

We have a fantastic first guest blogger post by the super lovely Hana over at Bouffe E Bambini. She shares with us she managed to lose weight, and not just shed a few pounds, but transformed herself. Read on to see how she did it!

Is there life after having 2 babies and gaining 100 pounds????


I'm living proof! 

Hi there, My name is Hanna and I am so honored to be here guest blogging here on What Wegan Did Next!!! . I'm straight but am in FULL SUPPORT of same sex realationships!!! Hurray for L*O*V*E!!

You can find me anytime over on my blog http://www.bouffeebambini.blogspot.com/ {bouffe e bambini} where I post lots of fun recipes,  some cute pictures of my babes, and some fun fashion stuff. 

I am a busy mom of two toddlers, a full time critical care nurse, runner, blogger and wife. I'm a busy lady!!! 

This is me! 

It's so nice to meet you. Today I am going to share my weight loss journey with you.

I hope I can help inspire some of you who have had a baby or two and found yourself stuck in a rut, struggling with weight and just not feeling like your self anymore. I have been there my friends. I have lost 110 pounds and am so excited to share my story and inspiration with you.

Here I am with my little loves. My son little Milton is just over 2  and Ginger is 12 months. I'm a busy lady!

Meet my husband, big Milton!!!

So this is how my story begins.......

First, we were a happy couple!!!!

Then we fell in love and got married.

Then I got pregnant........

Gained 100 + pounds........

And had a beautiful baby boy.

My life was forever changed in more ways than one.

First of all let me say that I honestly feel like my life had truly just begun with the birth of my children. I have love for them like I never knew existed. I often feel like my heart might burst with joy when look at their shining little faces. You can read more about me and my transition into motherhood {here}

However, this is what I looked like with my first born. Then I got preganant again 4 month later. WOW! I was pregnant for 2 years straight.

The wonderful news was I was a mom and had given birth to a healthy baby boy and girl. The not so wonderful news was that I had become obese! Yes, obese. Not exactly how I wanted to describe myeself but the truth.

Honestly, when I was pregnant I thought I was so big because of the baby not realizing that when the baby came out I was going to be just as big. I was completely shocked at my size. When I looked in the mirror I had no idea what I was even looking at. I felt like I was trapped in someones else's body; a very uncomfortable body.

  • My thighs rubbed together and I would develop a rash if I didn't have pants between my legs at all times.

  • I had little bumps in my armpits where I would shave because they would rub against my upper arm and chafe.

  • I couldn't cross my legs

  • My back ached; I could barley lift my new born baby without throwing my back out

  • I was always sweaty, especially under my breasts

  • I felt disgusting; I have never been so uncomfortable in my life.

  • I was embarrassed. I would run into an old friend and they would kind of look at me like "oh that poor girl used to be so cute but now she had kids and look at her" I HATED THAT!!!

  • I had stretch marks ALL over my abdomen, thighs, upper arms and even down to the back of my shins because I had gotten so big.

  • Nothing fit. I wore pajamas and plus size maternity clothes for a VERY LONG TIME!

  • I stopped caring totally about my appearance; Never making an effort to look nice.

  • My wedding rings didn't fit and I had gained so much weight some of my shoes wouldn't even fit.
Basically, I just felt horrible inside and out. I felt very unattractive. I would hardly let my husband touch me becasue I felt so ashamed of my body. I stopped wearing make up all together. I wore my hair pulled back every single day and always was in old ratty PJ's. It was so depressing. I was really unhappy.

It wasn't long before I knew I had to loose the weight and not just a few pounds, I knew I needed to loose A LOT, and so my journey began.........

I was motivated and darn right DETERMINED to loose this weight. I wanted to be healthy and happy for me, my husband and my kids, It wasn't just about me. I have heard over and over again in my life that "you should just love who you are no matter what size". I love that and I think it's a great sentiment but the honest truth is for me I couldn't love myself in that condition. What's there to love about not feeling good? When I am thinner, I feel healthy, sexy, accomplished and it radiates to all areas of my life. 

Here are a couple before and after pictures that I hope you find inspiring.

Starting out is the hardest part of the whole journey. Lossing 100+ pounds is a very daunting task to say the least but I am just an average, everyday woman and I did it. That means you can too! 

 I did it completely on my own. I never joined Jenny Craig or weighth watchers. I didn't take diet pills, have surgery or starve myself.   I just had a vision of who I wanted to be and I made that vision come to life, Again, you find my detailed plan {HERE}

I think it is important to think about it long and hard before committing to something like this becasue it is a long journey but it is VERY attainable. If you have a little will power and a little dicipline you can make it happen.  It's important to set a reasonable, realistic goal and you can read more about that in my {GUIDE}

I wanted to talk a little bit about common pit falls. Many women who desperately want to loose weight will come up with a list of reasons why they don't think they can acheive thier goals so I just wanted to let you know that there is always a way. Here is how I dealt with many typical obstacles while trying to loose weight.

Common Obstacles:
  • NO CHILDCARE.   I am a full time mom and a full time nurse. I have no childcare whatsoever. I made time to exercise anyway. I bought a double stroller and a baby carrier and I walked everyday. You don't need to go to a gym to loose weight. I did while taking care of 2 babies under the age of 2.
  • FULL TIME WORK.  I also work full time as a nurse, 12 hour night shifts to top it off. You must make time to prepare food for yourself to bring with you to work so youtr not tempted to eat the junk in the cafeteria.

  • A SPOUSE WHO WON'T FOLLOW THE SAME MEAL PLAN AS YOU.     My husband eats pretty much everything I don't eat. He eats sweets, breads, potatoes, pastas. He eats whatever he wants. So no big deal. Prepare meals that can be shared by both like prepare chicken, mashed potatoes and broccoli. You eat the chicken and broccoli and let him eat everything else. You'll be surprised how easy it is to make it work. 

  • NO TIME. I worked full time and was a full time mom during my entire weight loss plan. My best advice is to be prepared. ALWAYS, keep snack friendly food around the house and carry it with you wherever you go, fruit, almonds, cottage cheese are great examples. This way you won't be tempted to binge on whatever food is lying around the house.
I have dieted many times in the past and this is the first time in my life I have lost this amount of weight in the healthiest way I know how. I never felt hungry or deprived.

My best advice is BE KIND. BE GENTLE. FORGIVE YOURSELF and then jump right back on that wagon and try agin. Concictency was my greatest tool.

A few more tips:

  • Be grateful everyday
  • Just let it go
  • Remind yourself how amazing you are, this is hard work
  • Talk about it, accept praise from others, if you work hard, you deserve praise. It feels so good
I just have to say that I feel better now after having 2 babies than I have ever felt in my life. Not only am I in love with being a mother but now I can truly enjoy my kids and feel great about myslelf. What a great example for my kids as well. They see their mom as healthy, happy and radiant. That is a wonderful thing my friends.


I truly hope that I have helped to inspire at least one of you to give it a try. It is possible. It is doable even with kids and work and every other crazy thing life throws at you. I am passionate about this and I would truly be happy to answer any questions or just chat about how difficuilt weight loss can be.  Again, you can find EXACTLY how I did it {HERE}Please feel free to email me anytime at "www.bouffeebambini@hotmail.com"

Ok, ok. I'll be the first to say WOW & how bloody amazing does she look?? Such an inspiration for all of us showing that you can achieve anything you put your mind to. I can't even motivate myself to lose 6 pounds! haha. 

Thanks so much for sharing your story with us Hanna. Make sure you pop on over to her blog as it's fantastic and she's one of the nicest ladies in the blogosphere!

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Sunday, 29 January 2012

Reunited!!! + Article in Huffington Post

Just a super quick post...

Firstly, Wegan reunited at the airport!! (Yes I made that sign, loves??)

& also, Megan has an article on Femme Invisibility on the Huffington Post. Absolutely overwhelmed & loving the response!! For those of you emailing me hold on tight as I'm a bit preoccupied being reunited with my fiancĂ©e <3

We're sOooOooO beyond happy to be back together, best feeling in the world <3 Thanks for all your happiness for us!

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Saturday, 28 January 2012


I am about to go to bed, my last night sleeping alone for a month woo, and I am scheduling this post to go up at 9am. This is the time that I am nearly at London Heathrow and will be ready & waiting for Whitney to arrive at 9.25am. SO EXCITED!!!

I have also now claimed the double bedroom back as ours now that my sister has moved out with her boyfriend lol.

Ta da!

This is the final vlog from our SC days, it ends with our departure but now 2 months later we are being reunited as you watch this. Neat huh?

Make sure you follow our twitter & my instagram 'meganfromwegan' for updates & pics.

As I wont have as much time to blog with Whitney here I have got some fab guest posts coming up, as well as more Real Life Lesbian interviews & Love Stories.

Blog to you next as WEGAN!


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Friday, 27 January 2012

1 Day!!!!

Yes, that's right! It is merely ONE day until Wegan are reunited. I can't believe how quick this week has flown by??

Thanks for all of you who have been so supportive, happy & excited for us. We <3 you all!

Here's another video from our SC days, where we made a trip to Charleston!

Look out for the photobooth replay haha

My last post about Cynthia Nixon received a range of comments, from agreeing to disagreeing. Of course, we are all entitled to our own opinions. I know what I said about her partner is a low blow, I'm well aware that it's really a catty remark.  I'm sorry, it's just one that I could not resist. Shake your head at me or slap me on my wrist lol. We're all human, and we all fall down somewhere. I'm by no means perfect and do not pretend to be. So please do not be disappointed in me. I believe in equality & diversity and clearly I'm a great advocate for it.  I'm sure Cynthia's woman is a fantastic lady and they love each other muchly.  My point wasn't about her girlfriend though, it's about Cynthia undermining a lot of gay rights arguments. Yes of course, if  she feels it's a choice who is anyone to say it isn't. The problem is with her being one of few lesbian celebrities out, it just pushes the fight for equality and recognition further back.  If you don't care for gay rights then fair enough, but I do.

"And finally, she's right.  It shouldn't matter if it's a choice.  But wake up, Mary.  Lots of things in life shouldn't matter, and they do.  The entire reason we have to have a civil rights movement is because it shouldn't matter but it does.  Words matter too."

To read more of an incensed gay blogger click here.

Here's a lovey dovey photo for y'all

Here's also what happened in a follow up interview... Apparently nobody likes bisexuals... Thoughts now?
KS: You’ve been very vocal and political about marriage equality and helped lead the successful fight for it in New York. So congratulations on your own marriage. But before you met and fell in love over seven years ago now with Christine—who, through a sperm donor,  gave birth to your son Max Ellington almost a year ago—you were in a 15-year relationship with Danny Mozes, whom you first met in high school. You had two children with him—Samantha, who is now 15, and Charles Ezekiel, who is 9. You’ve been quoted as saying about these two relationships in your life: “In terms of sexual orientation, I don’t really feel I’ve changed … I’ve been with men all my life and I’d never fallen in love with a woman. But when I did, it didn’t seem so strange. I’m just a woman in love with another woman.” I’m a bit confused. Were you a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship? Or are you now a heterosexual in a lesbian relationship? That quote seemed like you were fudging a bit.
CN: It’s so not fudging. It’s so not. I think for gay people who feel 100 percent gay, it doesn’t make any sense. And for straight people who feel 100 percent straight, it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.
KS: But it is the “B” in LGBT.
CN: I know. But we get no respect. 
KS: You just said “we,” so you must self-identify as one.
CN: I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt.

Further, one of our 'disappointed' commenter's submitted this Autostraddle article in which it discusses whether saying 'I was born this way' is to apologise for being this way and that we would change it if we could. UM. No. Yes I believe I am born this way. Would I change it if I could, take the imaginary straight pill? Heck no!! & it saddens me when gay people feel they would change if they would. What anti-gay people need to realise is that we cannot be cured. We are who we are, and we're damn proud of it.

Anyhooooo... enough of that. 

Are you lesbian/bisexual and living in South Wales? 

& well ideally, not tone deaf. Then please join the new South Wales Women's Gay Choir. 
Their Tumblr & Twitter. Go spread the word!!

By the way, did I mention I get to see this beautiful face TOMORROW?? AHHHH!!! :D

She's nearly at the airport and will be flying into the sky in a mere two hours!!

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Tuesday, 24 January 2012

A Choice to be Gay??

Firstly, a bit of a gay rights roundup as this is currently a very hot topic.

Cynthia Nixon Angers Many

Oh dear. Sex & the City star has annoyed many gay people but stating that it is a 'choice' to be gay.  This is a line of defence that many anti-gay people use, and now one of our own is using it, I'm sure you can see why she's ruffled a few feathers  for the equality fight. She stated " I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice.” (Read article here)

I'm sorry... but have you seen her girlfriend??*

Anyways, what are your thoughts on this? Many are angered as the majority of gay people (us included) believe you are born this way & it cannot be 'chosen'. 

Some have put forward that she is bisexual and not gay. Perhaps a valid point, she could therefore 'choose' to be in a gay relationship for the rest of her life. But this does not mean being gay is a choice.

“It’s not a “choice,” unless you consider my opting to date a guy with brown hair versus a guy with blonde hair a “choice.” It’s only a choice among flavours I already like. If you’re bisexual, you’re not gay, so please don’t tell people that gay people can “choose” their sexual orientation.” - gay blogger John Aravosis

Perez Hilton has echoed many by blogging:

“We totally hear her out and true, we cannot define her “gayness,” but it wasn’t a choice for us. We were BORN gay. And millions of gay people around the world feel the same way.”

Oh dear Cynthia... What HAVE you done?

Now that's out of the way, onto more exciting times.

4 days until Wegan are reunited!!!!! 
Can you believe it?

In a form of celebrating, we bring you the first out of three videos from our time in South Carolina.  We will be putting the others up in preparation to being together again this week.

In this video we are reunited and we celebrate our 3 year anniversary yay!!

Please rate, comment & subscribe :)

Also, Wegan were mentioned by the fabulous & hilarious ladies over at My Lesbian Radio. Go to 13.15mins of their latest podcast to hear their little discussion about us and a preview to Denise's interview that we will be sharing with you all next week.

Click here to listen!

Did you have a good laugh? :)

** Yes, yes I am well aware I'm awful. Please read this follow up post.

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Sunday, 22 January 2012

Love Stories ♥ April & her Soldier Krystal

You may have seen this lovely lesbian proposal video flying around on the internet when it recently went viral. It shows April being reunited with her soldier Krystal and giving her a ring at the airport in a very cute way.  We loved the video and we are thrilled to feature their love story on our blog.  April tells us what the video was really about and how Krystal actually proposed to her.  We are also pleased to feature our first lesbian military couple on here; good riddance to Don't Ask Don't Tell! Read on to see what being a military girlfriend is like...

Love Stories ♥ April & Krystal

My name is April (right) and this is my soldier Krystal (left). We have been together for going on two years in April. We have had ups and downs like any other couple but we have made it this far. We met through a mutual friend. I remember my friend telling me how Krystal thought I had beautiful eyes and to let me know that. My friend had told me and after that I got her number and we started talking immediately after. I'll never forget it.

The way I edited the video actually made it seem like I proposed to her at the airport, but that really wasn't how it went AT ALL. I had actually bought her a ring that says "Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart," and just wanted to be silly and give it to her at the airport. It was just a Christmas gift, to be honest.

Before she had left for BCT we had gotten a promise ring. A few weeks before she had come home, I wanted to get it cleaned so I took it in. The cleaning job sucked and when she got home I told her about it, so she decided to take it into her own hands. She took the ring in and apparently 'my stones were lose' so my ring had to 'get fixed.' She had something up her sleeve, and I could tell. A few days passed and she planned on a night at a hotel with just us for December 22, 2011. We packed up our Christmas presents, and our bags and were planning on having our Christmas at the hotel. She treated me to a spa day, I got a massage and a mani and pedi, then our plan was to go up to wherever she secretively planned to take me. She ended up telling me after my spa day that the plans had changed and that instead we were going to go up to see some family and we will have to reschedule. Of course, I was upset. Not because we had to see her family, just that since the day she got into town we hadn't had really 'US' time. I got over it, and we headed up to Bisbee, AZ to see her family. We had finished up there and she wanted to go look around Downtown Bisbee because she lived there a few years ago, and graduated from there. I was sort of irritated and just wanted to go home. She ended up parking, and we got out and started walking towards the Copper Queen Hotel (a haunted hotel that I have ALWAYS wanted to stay at). I was cold, irritated and hungry. We walked inside and all of a sudden she says "Yes, I have reservations for tonight." I looked at her and about died.

We got our stuff from the car (presents, bags, etc.) and went up to the room. We were opening presents and she all the sudden pushes the presents out of the way and says "I need to talk to you about something." I was a little concerned. Anytime a significant other says "We need to talk," or anything on the lines of 'talking' is sort of scary. She started telling me how much she loves me and then all of a sudden got down on one knee. Immediately I started tearing up. She pulled out a box and opened it. It was my ring along with an extra piece to it. She asked me to marry her, and I lost it and started crying. Of course, I hugged her and said yes. It was the most intense moments of my life that I will never forget. After that, we got ready and she had made reservations at this nice restaurant. It was pretty much the most amazing night of my life. The next day we did a mine tour, and had some coffee. It was that time for us to leave, and while we were  driving out of town it started snowing. If anyone knows anything about Arizona, it doesn't really snow much so it was a big deal to me. Best two days OF my life.

Being a military fiancé is hard. Even though this whole journey has just begun, it's already hard. When she left for Basic in October, it was one of the hardest things I had ever gone through. We had been attached at the hip the whole time we had been together. Being without her wasn't really an option to me. Towards the middle to end of September I would randomly just start crying. Picturing her not being next to me, broke my heart. She left, and as soon as she did I IMMEDIATELY was trying to find a way to get her address. I finally found her battalion's Facebook page, and felt a little better. Not being able to talk to her whenever I wanted or seeing her whenever I wanted really took a toll on me, but in the end made my love for her THAT much stronger. Seeing her for the first time since she had been gone was amazing. You can even see that in the videos that in that moment nothing else mattered in the world. Just her and I.

The only thing that really bothers me about being in a gay military relationship is the fact that we do not get the same benefits as straight couples do. We do not get BAH*, we do not get the chance to be recognized as a married couple if we were to have a marriage license. To me, and I don't mean ALL straight couples, but a lot of them don't understand what it's like to not have these 'rights' that most straight couples have. A man can marry his sister, and that's okay. But I can't marry the woman I love because she is the same sex as I am. I would kill to be able to marry the one i love, but because of stupid laws I can't. Yeah, DADT is gone- that's a HUGE step. But DOMA is still out there making it so that I cannot get medical insurance, or housing, or anything like that when it comes to the military. I AM a a soon to be Army wife, and when I become one, I will still technically not be one according to the government. I just really hope that it changes.

** BCT=basic combat training/basic. 
BAH=basic allowance for housing. 

Thanks for sharing your story with us April! Love how Krystal proposed, and also the reality of you being moody haha. We, of course, know how hard long distance is. We can't imagine how the additional stress of being in the military must impact on this. We wish them all the best and hope that the strive towards equality in the military carries on. Can't wait for the wedding!

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