Saturday, 27 October 2012

Love Stories ♥ Shelby and Meaghn

It's about time we spread some more love into the air, and doesn't Autumn just bring you that nice cosy feeling? Well grab a cup of tea (or Starbucks pumpkin spice latte- yum!) and enjoy our next love story from two lovely girls who have managed to conquer long distance as well...

Love Stories ♥ Shelby and Meaghn

Where it all began; June 22, 2010 (yes, we remember the exact date that we started talking) thanks to facebook and a country music group, Bomshel, we became friends on facebook. Instantly we started hitting it off and began talking 24/7. Meaghn lived in South Carolina at the time, while I was living in Michigan. While I had always dated guys, Meaghn had never been in a relationship and neither one of us had ever been in a same-sex relationship; we knew it was more than a friendship. After a month of talking, I (Shelby) decided to fly to North Carolina to meet up with Meaghn and her friends to see Bomshel for a concert (no one knew at this time how we were feeling about each other). Meeting each other for the first time was one of the most nerve wracking things we have ever been through. When I first saw her, I knew it was meant to be. Her short stature, cute, southern accent self had me hooked. We had a great weekend while becoming more and more physically and emotionally attached. It was hard to show our feelings towards each other when no one that weekend knew. The night before I had to fly back home, July 25, 2010, I asked her to be my girlfriend. 

Over the next few months we were living a long-distance relationship, which was the hardest thing for me...especially since none of my friends or family knew (same goes for Meaghn). Meaghn had always wanted to go to school for Public Relations with a goal of working for a big record label in Nashville, TN; I knew I had to make the move for her in hopes that soon after, Meaghn would follow and end up in Nashville. I had been working at a doctors office as a Medical Assistant for the past 4 years in my hometown and absolutely loved my job, but I knew what I had to do. I made a quick weekend trip down to Tennessee to look for a job and an apartment with a friend of mine and by the time I came back to Michigan, I had an apartment down there. My friend Jeremy, who is also from Michigan, decided to move down there with me (he is no worries). When I told my mom (my best friend in the entire world) and the rest of my family, friends and coworkers that I would be moving to Nashville on September 1st, I had mixed reactions. No one knew or understood why I would just want to jump up and move out of state when I had an awesome job and when all my family and friends were in Michigan, and my biggest passion, snowboarding was there...not in a southern state. I couldn't be straight forward with them and tell them I was moving bc of a relationship...let alone one that was with a girl. Nevertheless, everyone supported me, especially my mother. Meaghn was just starting her freshmen year at college in South Carolina, so I knew she wasn't going to move right away. I got an awesome job at an Endocrinologist office, and thankfully had friday's off. I made plenty of late night road trips to South Carolina after work on Thursdays and would stay until Sunday morning just so we could see each other. When I would go to visit, it would be a secret from her friends/dorm roommates and we would get a hotel room and no one would ever know. Meaghn's birthday was coming up and I was going to visit her that weekend. 

One night her mom made a random trip to her college, which was about an hour away, so Meaghn knew something was up. You see, Meaghn's family is Southern Baptist so as some of you may know, they are very strict on certain things. When she went down to meet her mom, her mom went off. She had saw some stuff on facebook that we had wrote to each other and on Jeremy's she knew. She did and said everything she could to let Meaghn know that being a lesbian was NOT okay. That night was one of the hardest nights of my life. We were not allowed to talk, Meaghn's mom had her go see a church counselor and everything. Meag made it very clear to her mom, that this is who she was and it was not a choice and she would do and be with who she wants to in life (long story short). I was a complete mess and decided it was time to call my mom and spill the beans. I was bawling my eyes out because I was terrified on how she would react...but when I told her that I hoped she wouldnt be mad and that I was dating "that girl Meaghn from South Carolina", her exact words were "Shelby, I would of been more upset if you told me you hated animals". (oh by the way I grew up on a farm, so animals are a big part of my family lol. WHEW, huge sigh of relief). We both knew we would overcome all of this and would slowly start telling our friends and some of our family about us. I decided tell my old coworkers first, which were all completely supporting of everything. I then took the easy way and changed my facebook relationship status...hold your bad responses, ALL positive and supporting. Meaghn on the other hand, couldn't do the same....people in the south are much different than in the north (no offense). But she decided to tell a few of her friends and she received support, which is exactly what she needed. Her family on the other hand, was still in the air about it...I was not allowed to come around and they didn't want to talk about it, time would change this. 

The next few months were extremely hard on us, lots of tears and feeling lost. Meaghn didn't have her license at the time, so I was the only one able to travel if we wanted to see one another. The new year came around, and our hopes for spending new years eve together came to an end when I knew I wouldn't be able to visit. I still was making the drive to South Carolina (about 8 hours) at least once a month, sometimes twice if I was able to. Spring came around, Meaghn was finishing up her first year at college and I needed her in Tennessee with me. Her family knew she wanted to head to Nashville for school, so it was a little less of a stress for her having to tell them..although she wasn't planning to move SO soon...but still when the time came, her mother was not as happy and excited as her dad was. Meaghn is a daddy's girl so he supports her 100 percent. We had really hoped she would be living in Nashville for our 1 year anniversary, but due to a few bumps in the road, that was a heart broken no-go. Finally, the beginning of August came and Meaghn was moving to Nashville and we would officially be living together and starting our future. Meaghn's mother was finally coming around to our relationship and was realizing that her little girl was growing up and she would do whatever she wanted to do in life, no matter what. Meag got an awesome job working a school day care and was going to a community college and we were finally where we wanted to be. Bad news though, I was extremely home sick. Nashville was not my style and was definitely not for me. I was born and raised in the country, I was used to snowboarding every day that I could in the winter and most importantly, I was missing my mom. How could I let Meag know that I was completely unhappy living in Tennessee? We had many long talks about what we wanted to do, and once Thanksgiving came along I had Meag come up to Michigan with me for the first time ever...really hoping she would fall in love with it. Normally we have snow in Michigan for Thanksgiving, but last winter just did not work out in my snow. We had an awesome trip, Meag loved everything about for the hard part, trying to tell Meaghn I wanted her to move up to Michigan with me. We were not living in a very nice neighborhood while in Tennessee, so that was a plus when trying to tell Meag why I wanted to move home. All this time, I was worried on what Meag would think about moving, and she had known all along that I would only be happy back in Michigan and that she was actually looking forward to move. 

The next few months, we went back to Michigan to visit and finally (YAY) slowly start to move all our things up there. April 2012 rolled around and we were officially moving up to Michigan. We decided to move in with my parents and younger brother, so we could work on saving up to buy a house together. Our 2 year anniversary was this past July and I couldn't be happier. I was fortunate enough to get a job back at my old doctors office and Meag landed an awesome job as a nanny for 2 adorable children, a 4 year old and a 1 year old. It has now been 6 months since we have been living in Michigan, in my parent's house (yes, it's time we move out). We have been looking non-stop for a house, but have had a few things fall through and are keeping our fingers crossed that something works out in the next few months due to the fact we have big plans for next year. While same-sex marriages/civil partnerships are not recognized in the state of Michigan, we will make it happen. 

I forgot to mention, I am 25 and Meaghn has just turned 21. We have had plenty of long talks about our future, and as I see myself getting older, I am wanting to start a family as well as Meaghn. We plan on going through a fertility clinic in Grand Rapids, Michigan early next year and using donor sperm, with me going through with this first. Meaghn is going to school to be a dental hygienist and still has a few more years, and we would really like her to finish her schooling before she goes through with a pregnancy. First things first though, getting a house...then the family will follow. We know it will be a lot to handle, bc honestly not all of both our families know about us, even though I am pretty positive it's easy to assume...we will make it work. The future can sound scary, but we both know what we want in life and know if we have each other, everything will work out. We can not wait to buy a house and start a fingers crossed when we start the process that we have a boy first (sorry meag...she wants a girl). We are so happy and excited for our future together and can't wait to see where life takes us.

Aren't they just the cutest? They've had to go through so much together, from coming out to friends and family and to making it work despite long distance. & who's excited for babies?? WOW! We wish them all the best with wherever life takes them and we can only hope that same sex marriage is brought to their state soon! Hopefully we may meet them next time we're back in SC ;) 

They've also just started their own blog so go follow their story over at Serendipity Love Adventure!

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Tuesday, 23 October 2012

New Videos from Wegan!!

Yes that's right, you've not seen us in action since Whitney arrived at the end of June... whoops sorry about that!! So here's a little recap of some of what we've been up to (with more to come!) followed by a little video we recorded today just to say hello :)

Song by Megan's sister Freya.

A love story will be coming to your laptops soon!! :)

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Sunday, 21 October 2012

What A Year!! So Many Changes, Such Little Time..

What A Year!!

How things have changed...

Normally you would reflect on the year you've had when the new year is looming, however SO much has changed this year already I thought I would already do a recap of it. This year has been the most change I have ever experienced in my 25 years. EVER. & not just little change...

One of the biggest changes recently was that on 15th October 2012, I passed my driving test!!! It seemed like that day would never come. I started learning earlier this year finally, and although I booked my test a few months back- 15th October was the earliest one I could get! I was very nervous as truly didn't know if I would pass or not but when it came to it I felt quite calm and confident. I passed with only 2 minors and have since been driving Mya the mini to work! It's very surreal to have this freedom, and I'm loving it. 

Of course the biggest life changer for both Whitney & I was Whitney moving over here!!! 

This is followed by our Civil Partnership!!! A big big step in our lives, that will lead to our big wegging.

I graduated from my Masters

I also bought my first ever car this year

Though before that I made the biggest purchase of my life... our house!!

Lets not forget that at the beginning of this year I also had no job.. I've had a job for half a year and had a promotion!

So let's recap- and revisit the the beginning of this year:
  • Whitney and I we were still doing long distance
  • I had no job
  • No house
  • No car.. and hadn't even started to learn to drive.
I think we can all agree that most people's big life changes happened all in one year.. it's super crazy when I think about how much has changed.... but of course ALL for the BETTER! :)

Not sure how much change can happen before 2013?? Only time will tell!!
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Thursday, 11 October 2012

Happy National Coming Out Day!

Happy Coming Out Day!

Today is National Coming Out day! Well it's more of an international day which celebrates, as you would expect, the experience of coming out and telling loved ones and/ or the world!

Both Whitney and I came out many many years ago, though it never stops. In fact I just came out to my new work colleague (think she may have gathered by my civil partnership desktop picture as well). Coming out fit the first time can be very scary and daunting and you should only do it when you're ready. But don't forget- if your friends are truly your friends the they will accept and love you. If they don't, then they aren't your true friends!

Be happy, be proud and be open of who you are!

Megan's coming out video she recorded last year:


Wednesday, 10 October 2012

Sharing Is Caring!

Got some videos here I think you need to check out..
Perhaps a bit biased but here is an amazing cover of Rihanna's new song 'Diamonds' by my sister Bethany aka Freya 
My sister's lovely friend, Lauren Aquilina has got her first EP coming out which you can pre-order, but first you must check out her brilliant single 'Fools'!
Nikki and Jill from the Real L Word are featured is an advert from Expedia entitled "find your understanding"
If you haven't already stumbled across fellow American and British couple Kaelyn and Lucy, well you'll thank us that you now have as they are super cute girls making long distance work!
Last thing that I'm sharing I promise! Girl Play is a web series coming to your screens soon, from the creator of the Fab Femme, it is set to bring attention to femme visibility.
“Critics will say this web series is a hybrid cross between The L Word and Sex and the City with a southern twist”- The Fab Femme

Girl Play tells the story of four feminine lesbian women who are searching for true love in the ‘Big Easy.’  Olivia Black, a driven New Orleans twenty-something, and her group of gal pals work to form successful, though sometimes turbulent, relationships while maintaining their careers and independence.  Each character will take viewers on relatable journeys, highlighting stories of lesbian love, deceit, political hardships, and self-acceptance.  
Take a walk in their heels and see the world through the eyes of a femme.  Laugh, smile and cry with the ladies of Girl Play.  Bienvenue!

Hope you enjoyed this post! & remember.. sharing is caring!!

We have many blog posts coming up including our civil partnership, progress of the Wegan manor, the visit of our lovely Canadian friends and of course some love stories! So hold tight my pretties.. 

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Friday, 5 October 2012

4 Years Anniversary + 1 Week Ago!

Today marks two occasions- our four year anniversary as well as one week on from our civil partnership!

Civil Partnership!! 

If you don't follow us on our other social media (twitter, tumblr, Facebook) then you are most likely dying to know how the day went... and for some pictures!! We will do a big proper post all about it from start to finish but for now we will give you a sneak peek. It was truly the most wonderful day- very surreal, (nerve wracking) and emotional but still the most wonderful day. Despite it being our "little big day" it was huge in the fact we got to say some vows in front of family and friends and declare our commitment to one another for life. We had a great registrar who said the most wonderful words & we even got to say "I do!" 

Four Year Anniversary

Today also marks our four years since we became official back on 5th October 2008! 
Last year we celebrated our three years in South Carolina, and SO much has changed within the year- Whitney has moved to the UK, we have got a house, (& Mya the mini!) and we even got a civil partnership! What does the next year have in store for us??.. One things for sure... a cat!! We have one last step in the visa to secure Whitney's stay here for good so keep those fingers crossed again!
5th October 2011
We're not quite sure how we're going to spend the day celebrating our anniversary yet, I have the day off work and we will most likely just take it easy and enjoy just doing the little things together. Even if it's just getting a pumpkin spice latte (thank you Starbucks!) Long distance sure does make you grateful for the small things in life! 
Mrs & Mrs Wegan X
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