"What's wrong with your hand?" #MyBeautyMySay

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Dove have launched a wonderful campaign #MyBeautyMySay to inspire and empower women to rise against beauty being used against them. Dove asked us* to partner up with this campaign, and we're delighted to, because we believe, like Dove, that beauty should be celebrated on our own terms, instead of our appearance being used to limit us. As a #DovePartner we want to reveal the ways in which the standards of beauty have personally affected us. Be sure to read our other blog post as part of this series: Wegan's story - "Too pretty to be gay!"

Watch Dove's new short film (1.30 min)- #MyBeautyMySay. It features the unique stories of 9 real life fab women who have overcome the beauty limits placed upon them. They're all pretty bad ass!


Megan's story - "whats wrong with you hand?"


Growing up, I tried any and every activity I wanted: swimming, rowing, ballet, etc. Nothing got in my way. Expect of course, the disability to my left hand. Even so, I gave everything a go. I'm not sure at what age I realized I had a hand that was very different from everyone else’s. I'm also not sure at what age I started to hide it with clothing or hiding it in photos. It’s something to this very day that I still struggle with. Showing the full me.

As much as I am very 'out' about being gay, I was not out about having a disability online until 2011. I still remember vividly writing that post, how I felt determined to get it out there. To tell the world that I only have the full use of one arm and one hand. My right hand:

"This is the part of this post where I am hesitant to type. It is a post I have wanted to do for quite a long time, not only for myself in some sort of therapeutic way, but also for you our dear followers. I do not want to seem like I have been in any way deceiving you but alas, in my way of coping, that is what I sort of do.

I have a disability to my left hand. It is not recent, I have had it almost since birth. I was born premature at 28 weeks old; 12 weeks early (yes 3 months!) I weighed a mere 1.14lb, basically a bag of sugar. I won’t go into complete details however as a result of medical negligence I lost the tips of my fingers to my left hand resulting in a great loss of function with further complications." -Introducing you to my hand.

I got sick of hiding it. But I also felt sick at the thought of people knowing. I had managed to conceal it so well in photos and videos, that when I did see a picture or a video of my hand, it would shock me. I saw my hand as a separate entity to me, an ugly part to me. A part to hide. That was until, I met Whitney. Slowly over the years, Whitney has helped me grow to love my hand as a part of me. In fact, she thinks I wouldn't be the person I am today were it not for my hand. She truly believes it makes me a better person.



It's funny that this blog is mainly about Whitney and I as a couple, and yet the most popular blog posts aren't about our engagement or Civil Partnership, they're about the disability to my left hand.

I was petrified to open up about my disability, and yet it's been so well received. I thought I would get lots of hateful comments about how I didn't conform to certain standards of beauty because I had a disability, and I have been pleasantly proven wrong. In fact, I've had so many other women message me that it's helped them to come to terms with their own disabilities, or embrace a part of themselves that they did not like, which is just absolutely amazing.

I'm still on a journey of self-discovery and love, but more and more each day I become more confident and proud to be me, the whole of me. I'm still hesitant to show my hand in videos or photos, but sometimes I manage to push through the fear. Recently, I showed my hand (aka 'Handy') in a boomerang video on Instagram and it was met with the wonderful comment 'what’s wrong with ur left hand??' I wanted to to reply 'nothing, but what's wrong with your manners'.

Luckily, others responded to this person for me. One person even commented, 'I always wish you'd post more photos showing 'handy', but now I see why you don’t.” That is exactly the reason I'm hesitant show my hand. I couldn't care less about anyone being homophobic towards me, but it hits me right in the heart when anything is said about my hand. However, it is what it is.

To be fair to the person who asked that “rude” question, I hardly show my hand, so they may have been genuinely shocked. If I showed it all the time, there wouldn't be any questions to ask. So I'm going to work on it! You'll see Handy more in videos and photos!


As I get more confidence, so does Handy. Handy constantly waves thank you to cars driving by and I always laugh to myself afterwards, wondering if the driver even noticed. But what's great, is that I don't even care. I am me, and I'm not about to apologise for that. #MyBeautyMySay #MM

Make sure you watch Dove's video, and comment to say that Wegan sent you. Which of the women featured inspires you the most? We love them all, but Jessica is just too fabulous for words. We need those shades. and the dog. K thanks. Feel free to share the videos to spread the message! 


We hope that you enjoyed this post and that it may help you in someway. What's your #MyBeautyMySay? Comment below, we'd love to hear! & if you loved this please, please do share it amongst your networks :)

*This blog post is part of a paid Megan Media and Dove blogging program. The opinions and ideas expressed here are our own.

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"Too Pretty To Be Gay?" #MyBeautyMySay

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Dove have launched a wonderful campaign #MyBeautyMySay to inspire and empower women to rise against beauty being used against them. Dove asked us* to partner up with this campaign, and we're delighted to, because we believe, like Dove, that beauty should be celebrated on our own terms, instead of our appearance being used to limit us. As a #DovePartner we want to reveal the ways in which the standards of beauty have personally affected us. Be sure to read our other blog post as part of this series: Megan's story - "What's wrong with your hand?"

Watch Dove's new short film (1.30 min)- #MyBeautyMySay. It features the unique stories of 9 real life fab women who have overcome the beauty limits placed upon them. They're all pretty bad ass!


Wegan's story - "You're too pretty to be gay!"

We've both been out and proud as lesbians from the age of 15 and 16. We have also always identified as feminine girly girls (apart from Whitney’s tomboy phase, when she went by the name Scott at 8 years old!) and never felt the need to change our appearance to fit the stereotype of what people thought a lesbian should look like. Many femmes (feminine lesbians) go through a phase where they change their appearance to try fit into the lesbian community, only to realize later that they have to be true to who they are.


We chose to confront and shatter these stereotypes through this blog, our Youtube channel and dating site. If you've been a reader of our blog for a while, you'll no doubt know that one of the reasons I set up this blog was not only to document my long distance relationship with Whitney, but to also put our faces out there to the world and show that yes, you can be gay and feminine at the same time!


Growing up as a femme, it slowly dawned on me:

1) I don’t see any other feminine gay role models out there,
2) I'm going to have to constantly come out as gay,
3) No-one will believe me when I say I’m gay.

Ah, the cloak of femme invisibility!

Going out in bars, Megan and I both got sick of hearing the continuous reactions to our coming out as lesbians... Wait for it...

"But you're too pretty to be gay!"

Seriously.

It’s such an awkward statement to hear. We don't see how 'beauty' has anything to do with being attracted to women. We get these comments from both the straight and gay community, male or female.


Megan: "Due to my feminine looks, I've had many comments from men such as it's a waste that I like women. I think my wife will disagree with you there!"

Whitney: "Due to my feminine looks, I've had many men try to argue that they can 'turn' me straight if I just give them a chance. Puh-lease. (Tip: ask if they've slept with a man to check if they're gay, that normally shuts them up!)"


Even now, when we're out and about as wife and wife, people still can’t believe we're a couple, even after showing them our wedding bands! But this just makes us all the more determined to continue with our fight for Femme Visibility.

We stand loud and proud to be two loving women in a committed relationship and it brings us great joy when we hear from lesbian/bisexual women around the world that we've helped them realize they can be feminine and gay.

Stay proud and stay you. Want to cut your hair short? Do it. Want to wear bright lipstick? Do it. Just do you. #MyBeautyMySay #MM


Make sure you watch Dove's video, and comment to say that Wegan sent you. Which of the women featured inspires you the most? We love them all, but damn Heather is pretty awesome! Feel free to share the videos to spread the message!


Read our other blog post as part of this series, Megan's story - "what’s wrong with you hand?"

We hope that you enjoyed this post and that it may help you in someway. What's your #MyBeautyMySay? Comment below! We'd love to hear! & if you loved this please, please do share it amongst your networks :)

*This blog post is part of a paid Megan Media and Dove blogging program. The opinions and ideas expressed here are our own.


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Launch of Pride merch! #Pride206

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In honour of LGBT Pride we have a created a Limited Edition 'Femme' top! We're super in love with the design (cut out shoulders and longer at the back) and of course love the gold metallic shine!

Get yours ASAP in time for Pride, and in light of the devastating shootings in Orlando of LGBT people, we will be donating 15% of profit to the victims and families. (Find out more info here)


We're also super proud to launch our #Pride2016 range where 50% of profit will be donated to the Orlando shootings victims and families.  Get them here. You can select womens fit or unisex (baggier).

** Please note we can only display the price is dollars but yes we ship WORLD-WIDE! :) Posted from the UK. **

What happened in the Pulse club, Orlando has sent devastation around the world. and certainly into our hearts. It has personally made us sick to the stomach and it's hard to stop the tears as more and more details emerge. However what is clear is that we stand united as a community. Love wins, always.

Stay strong. Stay proud. Stay you.

We love you.

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